Take it from Lauryn---It is not easy to break off a relationship with someone you thought was perfect for you-be it Friendship or Intimate Relationship...But, especially for Child Sex Trafficking Survivors like me, and Survivors of any other Traumatic Mental-Physical-Emotional Abuse---IT IS ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY!!! It will be of more detriment to you if you hold onto this parasitic force sucking your life energies dry and dimming your eternal shine. Think about it this way, if you are constantly watering a plant that will not grow-has shown no fruit or signs of energy-life-greenery NOTHING…what would you do?
You could keep the plant, watch it die and grow weeds but how depressing is that. Plus the stench death and dying will be emitted into your space and poison your aura. What's best is to throw that plant out. Throw it away-say God Bless and move forward. This how you have to view a dead relationship, where there is zero growth…it is dead weight-If you don't let go you will resent the relationship versus learning-growing from the divine lessons this connection was universally sent to teach you. Let go of what is no longer serving you!
Allow me to share three practical ways you can use to trash your dead relationships no longer serving you AKA let that dead sh!t has to GO!
1. KNOW WHY YOU NEED TO LET GO
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Make a “Reasons Why I Have To Let __________ Go” List.
Write down every reason you need to let the relationship go. I say at minimum there should be 10 reasons why. If it’s a dead situation I’m sure you could probably come up with more but write at least 10. Take your time, make it as intimate, descriptive and personal as you can-be specific- so when you think you need the connection and go back to your list---you remember PRECISELY why you SHOULD NOT be involved with this person. This is not a pro’s and con’s list. Your “Reasons Why I Have To Let __________ Go” List is exclusively for every reason why should absolutely not be connected-involved in a relationship with said person.
2. KNOW WHAT YOU DO WANT
Focus on what you do want in a relationship. The universe will do its job and send us what we need most. These are standard and non negotiable for me in relationships and in friendships.
LOYALTYI learned to allow some flexibility in what my ideal partner looks like. We always think we know what's exactly best for us. Yea at one time, in my fantasy world my mate is 6’7 dark skinned with flawless skin, white teeth and the chiseled body of an Olympian Athlete---but will that man love like I want to, deserve to be loved? Will he be honest and openly communicate with me? Will he hold me captive to my past or will he unconditionally love and accept me? I’ve learned my emotional health is ten times more important than the physical appearance...dont get it twisted tho there has to be a physical attraction and he must know how to dress---Im way too photogenic and magical to be hiding!
3. KNOW YOU DESERVE ALL YOU DESIRE
You are DIVINE and MAGICAL. Stop downplaying yourself. Stop letting outside forces talk you in and out of relationships you know aren't good for you. You know what you are worth and what you deserve. Stop settling for wackness thinking someone has the potential worthy of you and your God-Goddess. When people show you who they are believe them. Though, some do a great job of “acting” in the beginning but once red signs pop up DO NOT IGNORE THEM. Listen to and use your intuition. I do not care how good the sex is or how much they buy you or what they tell you about you and how perfect you are for THEM. Once the words do not match the actions it's time to CUT IT.
You deserve all you desire. You will receive what you accept. Everyone does not deserve a seat at your table. Move on, you know what you want and you know you deserve what you desire. Do not accept anyone's bullshit, you are not a doormat! You are a Magical God-Goddess who deserves only the best!
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XO, till next time...